Words can leave marks on somebody...

Why am I writing about words that can leave marks on people? Well, Isabella told me last night about something that someone had said to her in school during the day...about her hair....I had made it nicely the other day...just tying it up so that it does not get so tangled since it is so curly...well...last night she tells me that she doesn't want to have them like that ever again...then I asked her why 'coz I thought she likes the hair like that...well she tells me
-"One of my friends told me that it looks so so ugly...so, I don't want to have it that way any more..I want to have long hair...".
I was a bit astonished...
-"Isabella, what the girl said to you was not so nice but you don't always need to worry about what others said because you look beautiful just the way you are and I would love to have hair like yours myself."
-"Well, but I think everyone thinks that my hair is ugly and I want to have long hair..."
-"No, I don't think everyone thinks like that, it was just that one girl who said...don't worry about her...your hair grows all the time and it is so beautiful..."

Words can surely affect the self esteem...even when you are as young as 5 years old...and I think we should really think about what we say because sometimes they can be just kept inside instead of hurting somebody's feelings....well, kids don't know that yet but for us adults is good to teach our children that there are different looking people but that we should respect them and not shout any bad words at them or hurt them in any way. God has created us all for a meaning. And teach them to apologize if it happens sometimes that you may have hurt the other persons feelings by saying something personal.

I remember when I was younger...going to my teenage years and I was heavier than other kids, I was called by different names, other kids were just putting me down because of my clothes, my talking (although there was nothing wrong with my talking...just that I was better in Swedish than them since it was my second language)...well...you name it...everyday they had some new excuse to tease me and make me feel horrible in school...mobbing....those times (like 20 years ago) the adults did not take these things so seriously and they never interfered when teasing happened...they just kind of turned their backs away from everything...didn't want to take responsibilities or something....horrible times! And those days left scars in me...many of them that I have carried with me through these years...well...I can't say that it has been all bad...those days also made me a stronger person when I grew up...more independent and helpful...I wanted to help others in the same situation after I got out from the upper secondary school..the ninth grade....and I think I have helped many of those in the same situation...and it has helped me to process with my own past...I didn't "work" with youths so much but did volunteer work for couple of years and those years really made me grow up to respect myself and to respect others.

Today's world is even worse I think...we have so many "role models" in TV's, posters, videos, music...everywhere and our children try to live up to those crazy standards...girls being ultra thin and perfect in everything and guys being some kind of stereotype also...with 9-packs and all...it's scary how the image makes a change in kids mind and stress them to that extend that they don't feel good any more about themselves...they want to be somebody who they cannot be...they get sick, they do things to themselves to fit to this world...oh oh...May our God Almighty just protect our kids and everyone of us from those false idols. Let us love one another and teach our children to love one another for just who they are...whether they are chubby, tall, long, skinny, have different colours, different hair, glasses....name it...we are still all Gods children. Love one another!

These were just my thoughts for today....

Have a blessed day everyone!

John 13:34-35

King James Version (KJV)

34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
35 By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

Weeks fly by....random post...:)

Here I am again...I try to be more active here, but I can't seem to find the time or the energy at times...but now I thought to write something small since I am alone in the house...kids are in school and daycare and hubby is at work. I have some time for myself before I go to school...that I really need. I have mixed feelings, I suppose it is that time of the year. Speaking of school...last Monday I went back to school and took some few extra courses to keep me busy when I don't have work yet. I took digital creation, graphics communication and even swedish as second language :)...I have liked doing things with Photoshop and Indesign so far...lets see what the swedish course is like for me ;)...

what else....well...today we took Mumbi to daycare together with Isabella..she insisted that we take Mumbi before I take her to school...so, we walked and Isabella was talking so much as usual...She asked me many questions about nature, about adults, about kids...well everything...

She saw some yellow leaves on the ground and then she looked at the trees and asked me...
-"Mummy, will the leaves grow back again when they fall...."...well I told her that they will grow back next Spring again, after winter and then she just continued to talk:
-"...so first winter comes and mummy, I even saw a dream last night that winter was here and it was so nice and white everywhere...so when winter is here, the trees have snow, not leaves and then it rains again and snow goes away and then the green leaves come everywhere..."
-"mmm-m...thats how it goes, I said." Then she continued with some other stories...also that how she has grown so much and she is so big now, almost like my height...I told her that everyone grows and that Simon is already taller than me, then she goes like
-"But Simon is a boy, boys are always bigger, but I know, girls can also be very tall, bigger than boys!" I said,
-"Yes, there are some who are taller than others and some are just short but everyone grows to be an adult." Then she said:
-"Do children also grow to be adults?"
-"Yes, everyone does and when you are an adult, you go to work and get children and get married and live as a family." Isabella says:
-"So, children become adults..ahaa...and I want to have one...no, atleast two children...I can't have 100 children, that would be too too many to handle..." and we laugh together. :) and then we have reached the school and she tells me...
-"Mummy, see now we were in time here and we were able to take Mumbi even before my school starts...now we go in and we are not in a hurry...that is good, we should be like this every day!"

Then I kissed and hugged her and wished her good day in school and she told me also to have a good day in school. :) So, we had a nice talk while walking to the school...I was just thinking how she really has grown and has so wise thoughts even...can't believe that she was just a baby the other day. :) Now Mumbi is the baby, but we see even so many changes in her, it's unbelievable...she talks more and more every day and saying words in english, finnish, swedish, swahili...it's amazing :D
Time really flies, and weeks fly by...kids grow and grow and develop to be such beautiful people. :) I thank the Lord Almighty every day for my children and my family. I hope they can also grow in Christ and have the everlasting peace in their hearts. :) I love you my family.

Kliks. I am off for now...have to head to the library and then soon to school. :) Have a good day everyone! :)

School is over...looking for work again....

Oh, how the times just pass by and here I am again after like 2 months break....been busy with school and all the whole summer. And now we are in Autumn already...it feels like it was May just the other day and we were waiting for the warm summer to start...and now it is gone. Well, not totally gone, since the sun keeps still smiling at us and giving us like +23 degrees almost every day so we should still be happy about that :)

Last time I wrote about my accident...now it has been like 2 months since the day and my face has just the small scar left..by biting is still not perfect but much much much better than before. I have to still fix some of the teeth from my left side but all in time. :) I am happy that I have lived to see these days and see more miracles to come. :)

So, what has been happening since...hmmm...hard to remember everything, but I'll try..just don't mind if I hop from one thing to another in the middle of the sentences..;)....I went to wheel loader course after the accident and I have to tell you that I got some flashbacks sometimes when driving the machine...so I guess I was somehow traumatised about it all....and once when my hubby kissed me and it hurt my lip so much and I didn't have so much feeling on one point, I just bursted out in tears...I thought that I can never feel the kiss again like I used to and that it will just hurt....but it's all better now anyways. :) Time heals.
Ok...well, what else after the wheel loader course...hmmm...the practice...work practice..I did it in a company called Ragn-Sells...they collect trash that can be recycled...it was heavy job but I made it through. Driving a long truck was nice, I enjoyed that and the challenges that I had in the city...trying to reverse and get through small places with a big truck...it was cool. :) Otherwise the job made me realize that distribution is not my thing...stopping in 20 places one day to collect and lift heavy heavy stuff and trying to beat the time so that you get home even before going to bed ;)...I guess I would've gotten faster by time but I think I would still want to drive other kind of trucks...like shunting different building materials from one place to another or something or even better if I could be driving a truck with a crane....now I just have to keep on looking for a job..

Before I started my work practice, we took a weekend trip to Kolmården Zoo, just an hour and a half away from Stockholm. The kids did not know where we are going...it was a surprise for them :) We had booked a hotel room for one night so we just told them to pack something small and then we're off...they were asking all the time..."Where are we going...?"...we just told that they will see :) That was fun...when we got there, we went to see some dolphins, bears, lions, tigers, elephants, rhinos, gorillas, monkeys...well name it...all kind of animals...it was a beautiful place...i warmly recommend it to anyone...in the evening we went to the hotel Spa and swam there...Mumbi was not so happy about the water so I could not enjoy much but the most important was that Isabella and Simon were enjoying. :) We went to look for some food in the evening and then it was time to sleep and wake up the next morning to go and see the amazing dolphin show...it was so touching and those animals are just so so wise and amazing! The place was really worth a visit! Here are some pictures from there...

 Amazing dolphins...

 Isabella and Mumbi in the Spa...

 Mumbi refused to go to the water..:)

 The Spa..

 Outdoor swimming pool...

 Safari from high up from the lift...:) it was awesome! Kenya should have these too!

 The view from the lift...

 Simbas...:)

 Bears

 

 

Yep...so...after the small trip with our small family, I started the practice and practically I did not have any time to anything else apart from work and home for the next 5 weeks...but now even that is gone and I am back in square one..thinking of what to do next...

Isabella started her pre-school last week and it has gone so well...she has really enjoyed it...new class, new friends, new teachers...she says that she also misses the old daycare coz of the friends that were still left there, but the good thing is that she can still visit there because we go and pick up Mumbi together. :) I wasn't with her when she started her first day, it is only this week I have taken her to school and picked her up...at first I felt bad that I can't be there for her but when she starts her first class..I have to be there to experience it! :) My girl has gotten so big already :)...and just the other day she was a small baby..like Mumbi is now. :)

Mumbi....she has grown also...she is so stubborn nowadays, competing everything with Isabella :) I kind of remember how Isabella was doing that to Simon :D hehe...and now it goes on with Mumbi and Isabella :D hehe..constant fightings about who gets what...hehe...well...have to "enjoy" while it lasts ;) hehe...

Ok, I have to start giving Mumbi some food now coz she is screaming...so I will just post some random pictures from the late summer to the end and I will return again...:D Sorry, that I have not been so active in posting...but I will try to be better ;)